I find that in software development, and also in life, people learn best within the context of painful experiences. I’m not suggesting that software development mentors go out of their way to create painful experiences for their teams. On the contrary, just start listening. It doesn’t take very long to identify pain points within a team. Equipping teams to solve their own problems is drastically more effective than teaching people the right way to think. When I teach large groups I often describe my points as hooks or link where they can go back and expand their understanding. This large-scale map is essential so teams have a shared road map. But this is rarely enough.
Understanding is built incrementally. Each hook requires layers of experience and reflection hung upon it to develop a robust context of understanding. While there are a vast number of reasons that people are motivated to learn, as a mentor I find pain to be a constant source of effective mentoring. Pain is easy to identify within a group if you take the time to listen. As a mentor I search for the root causes that set this frustration in motion. Once I’ve collected and researched a variety of pain points I look for common themes and related root causes.
I remember one team that had a significant trust issue between the business team and the development team. The most obvious place that this pain point appeared was in the daily stand-up meeting. The business members were quiet and withdrawn while the development team dominated the conversation. As I started asking questions I quickly realized that there was a language barrier within the team. While most everyone on the team grew up in the same country, the developers consistently used technical terms that confused and alienated the non-technical team members. On top of this divide the technical team regularly used their exclusive knowledge to push decisions through. After discussing this with the whole team we adopted a “no tech talk” policy at stand-up. In fact we gave non-technical members cards that they could throw down in the center of the group if the speaker started using terminology that only part of the team understood.
This small but powerful modification significantly changed this team. The business team stopped reading their emails and texts during stand-up and started engaging in meaningful conversations. The technical team started translating their technical thoughts into business terms. Changing how the team communicated not only aligned their conversation with the business, it began to leak into their code. Constantly thinking about their work in the context of the business helped them create code that reflected the business. Clearer code reduce unnecessary overhead related to translating business terminology into application terminology. This increase clarity also cut down wasteful communication overhead and reduced the new team member learning curve. Aligning this team was not just a feel good moment; it resulted in a critical alignment of their software with the business.
While this example focuses on “soft skills”, pain driven learning is applicable to every part of software development, technical or not. I focus on pain points because they’re easy to find if you just listen. The emotion surrounding these problems provides an implicit invitation for a solution. The act of helping a team solve a problem that they face increases trust and moral. Once a team believes that they can solve the problems they face, they become emboldened to look at their challenges and take steps to correct them. These shared experiences draw the team together and provide a powerful environment for developing valuable software. Mentors earn respect from their teams by helping them identify and overcome issues. Respect opens avenues for powerful teaching opportunities that extend beyond pain points.
Effective mentoring is not delivered by force. On the contrary, effective teachers must become students willing to listen and learn. In the same way that effective software provides value to the customer, effective teaching equips students to keep moving forward. The correct posture of an effective mentor is humility.
This pain driven approach of mentoring gradually works from a posture of listening, to helping, and finally to instructing. Effective mentoring is delivered gradually not through authority and by force. On the contrary, effective teachers must become students willing to listen and learn. In the same way that effective software provides value to the customer, effective teaching addresses tangible problems and helps students continue moving forward. The correct posture of an effective mentor is humility.